Sunday, June 29, 2008
Camping Reflections
Monday, June 23, 2008
Off to Camp
Sunday, June 22, 2008
SIMPLE part 4
Friday, June 20, 2008
Indy Cars

Thursday, June 19, 2008
One Prayer

On Thursday nights we are doing something little different then we've ever done. We will be showing the One Prayer videos that thousands of churches are showing across the nation. The purpose is for churches to be united all across the world. Each video has a pastor who answers the question, "If you had only one prayer, what would it be?" Last week we showed Craig Groschell from Life Church. Craig had an awesome message about the his prayer of the church being one. If all the churches came together in the world we would see God do some awesome things, for example we would be able to end starvation and poverty to name a few. Pretty cool if you think about it. Instead of churches competing against one another, let's unite together so that the unbelieving world would see what the body of Christ is really about. Looking forward to hearing the others messages in this series. Tonight we will be showing Ed Youngs video.
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
New Camera
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Sunday Thoughts
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Visioneering
"Our natural response to criticism is to defend ourselves. This is especially true when our vision is under attack. We are tempted to begin a dialogue with our critics or with those who are parroting their criticism. Consequently, we waste energy and thought trying to answer questions for people who are not really interested in the answers. Without realizing it, our focus begins to shift. Instead of being vision centered, we slowly become critic centered."
Ouch! I know for me personally my first response is to defend myself and try to dialogue with the criticism. The better thing to do is to pray and give it to my heavenly Father. That's what Nehemiah did. Because Nehemiah gave it to God, he didn't loose sight of the vision God gave him and eventually he was able to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem. If you are facing criticism today for a vision that God has birthed in you, give that criticism to God and keep moving forward with the vision God gave you. It's not easy, but its God's plan that you stay on course!
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Chad Varga

This Sunday we will be having special guest Chad Varga with us. Chad played college ball at the University of Pittsburgh, recruited by the Dallas Mavericks and played pro ball in Spain. He averaged over 20 points per game and was the Slam Dunk Champion at the Spain All Star Game. Chad has a powerful testimony he is going to share with us. Please make plans to attend and invite a friend.
Monday, June 09, 2008
Simple part 3
Thursday, June 05, 2008
Caleb's Birthday
Today is buddy boys birthday. He officially turns seven today. We will be having a party for him this afternoon with cake and presents. This picture was taking at his kindergarten graduation. I was so proud of him as he won the Principal's award for his class. The Principal's award is based on attitude and kindness to other classmates. Way to go bud! What can I say but I'm a proud parent.
Wednesday, June 04, 2008
Creative Meeting
Sunday, June 01, 2008
Sunday Reflections
Today we were in part two of our series called "Simple." Jesus Christ came to make God known. We all have a decision that whether or not we will believe that Jesus is the Christ of the Son of the living God. Romans 3 gives us a map of how we can come to belief in Jesus. I normally don't go verse by verse and explain what each verse means but I believe it was important that we understand what it means to come to faith in Christ. I encourage you to look Romans 3 for yourself and even try the new You Version website Bible. It has a lot of different versions to check out.
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Flood
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Quick Happenings
- Had our work night last night- Cleaned up the storage area (What a mess!!!!!) Also did some painting in the new Sunday School rooms. Honestly, we could of used more help.
- Today is the first day of summer. (Kind of) The kids are officially out of school and I've already heard the famous sentence of summer, "I'm Bored!"
- Met with Heath Adamson today about the 7 Project. I'm really pumped about the 7 project coming to Montezuma. We have three schools booked including BGM and English Valley. The hard work begins now with prayer, getting the other churches on board and raising funds necessary.
- Also met with Vanna Bushong today. Vanna is going to help me out this summer with video projects and other projects in the church. Really excited about having an extra hand.
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Missions Meeting
Gave $200 to the new church plant in West Des Moines
Gave $208 to the Key Bearers Ministry (Pentecostal Evangels to Prisons)
Gave $250 to one of our own church attendees missions trip
Gave $25 gift certificate to Walmart for graduation gift for Missionaries son.
Also we are starting a care package ministry for those overseas and college students and looking at possible visitation to nursery homes on a regular basis. I hope this gives everyone an idea of what we do with our Missions money. Every time we give towards missions it is making a difference.
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
New Look
Monday, May 26, 2008
Memorial Day Fun
Sunday, May 25, 2008
SIMPLE
Today I talked about the first step which is simply "Follow Me." The story we read was from Matthew 9 and the story of Matthew the tax collector. It is interesting that Jesus asked Matthew who was a tax collector and sinner of his time to follow. Jesus didn't say, 'get your act together' and then follow nor did He give him a bunch of rules that he had to obey before he could be a disciple. Jesus simply said "Follow Me". Somehow we have gotten this backwards in the church today. We think that people have to have it all together before they can follow. Some how we have thought that even church is for church people. The more I study Jesus the more I find that people unlike Jesus liked Him and those who were unlike Jesus were attracted to Him. Which makes me think that if we are true followers of Christ then those who are unlike us will like us and those who are not like us will be attracted to us.
Jesus extends the invitation for everyone to follow Him. As we follow, God begins to do a work in our hearts. But before He even has a chance, we must first start following. Let's remember that very important but simple step.
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Children's Ministry Revamp
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Think like child

Monday, May 12, 2008
Mothers Day
Acceptance: I accept that God chose you to raise me
Appreciation: I appreciate everything you have done for me
Affirmation: I affirm and respect you by listening and praying for you on a regular basis.
I hope most of us took the time to write our letter of honor which includes all three of these important things. I took my letter of honor to my mom yesterday after church. I could tell she was really touched. I hope your mom was too!
Friday, May 09, 2008
Drive Conference

Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Grace vs. Truth
In our culture, we need to show people grace in order to point them to truth. People don't care what we have to say unless they know that we first care. The only way we can do this is by building relationships with those that need both grace and truth. If you are a parent, it means building that relationship with your child. If you are teacher, it means building that relationship with that student. If you have a person that you want to reach for Christ, it means building that relationship with that person no matter their lifestyle or opinions are. Let us learn how to show grace so that we can point people to truth. Remember it's not one or the other, it is both. Go walk in grace and truth!
Saturday, April 26, 2008
District Council
Also, congrats to Pastor Keaton who received his credentials Wednesday night. We love you bro!
Tuesday, April 08, 2008
Variety is a good thing!
Tuesday, April 01, 2008
God at the Movies
We are in the middle of a series right now called, "God at the movies." I got this idea from Mark Batterson who is the pastor of a church in Washington DC. Every year he does a series on some current and past movies. When you think about it, when Jesus taught He always used illustrations that were current to His day. In 2008 we live in media centered culture. Most everybody goes to the theater or rents a movie. Why not take current cultural movies and bring out the spiritual principles in them? Easter we did Narnia and last week we did Evan Almighty. Two great movies! I'm looking forward to this week as I am doing "Meet the Robinsons." Gary Smith will conclude this series with "Lord of the Rings." Take the opportunity to invite a friend to this series. Friday, March 28, 2008
Easter Weekend
On Easter Sunday we had 193 people in service. We kicked off our new series called God at the Movies. We will be taking four popular movies and bringing out some spritual truths from each of them. I'm praying that many of our guest will be back this coming week.
Saturday, March 22, 2008
40 Days comes to an end!
Monday, February 18, 2008
No Church
Monday, February 11, 2008
40 Days
Wednesday, February 06, 2008
Handling Criticism
“Many hearers lose much blessing through criticizing too much, and meditating too little; and many more incur great sin by calumniating those who live for the good of others. True pastors have enough of care and travail without being burdened by undeserved and useless fault-finding. We have something better to do than to be for ever answering every malignant or frivolous slander which is set afloat to injure us….there are tender, loving spirits who feel the trial very keenly, and are sadly hindered in brave service by cruel assaults. The rougher and stronger among us laugh at those who ridicule us, but upon others the effect is very sorrowful…
As ministers we are very far from being perfect, but many of us are doing our best, and we are grieved that the minds of our people should be more directed to our personal imperfections than to our divine message….
Filled with the same spirit of contrariety, the men of this world still depreciate the ministers whom God sends them and profess that they would gladly listen if different preachers could be found. Nothing can please them, their cavils are dealt out with heedless universality. Cephas is too blunt, Apollos is too flowery, Paul is too argumentative, Timothy is too young, James is too severe, John is too gentle…
Well then, let each servant of God tell his message in his own way. To his own Master he shall stand or fall…
Judge the preacher if you like, but do remember that there is something better to be done than that, namely, to get all the good you can out of him, and pray his Master to put more good into him.”
Amen to Spurgeon! I am very thankful for our church as we do not deal with much criticism here but my heart goes out to the pastors around the world that deal with it day in and day out. Remember to pray for your pastor and pray as Spurgeon as said, "That God would put more good into him."
Snow Day
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Basketball
I am excited to see how the next couple months will go and by the way, Olivia's team name is "Crusaders". Go Crusaders!!!!!
Monday, January 21, 2008
Annual Meeting
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Reflections
As far as the Jones family, we had a great Christmas as well. I love watching the kids open their presents. It takes me back to the magic of it all when I was kid. Jen even surprised me this year with a new t.v. (Score!) I want to thank everyone for their gifts and cards to our family this Christmas, it is highly appreciated and we feel so blessed to be a part of such a great church. I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas as well and looking forward to the New Year.
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Christmas Craziness
We also had our Santa outreach that Saturday and due to the snow that turn out wasn't as great as expected. Needless to say we had some families that came through our church door that might have never came if it wasn't for the event. We gave away bags of candy along with the Christmas story of Jesus.
This week we are gearing up for Christmas Eve service. I'm planning on doing this a little different this year then past. It will still be a wonderful time with family and celebrating our Lord's birth.
Remember in all the busyness of the season, don't forget to put Christ first. He is the reason for this season!
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Sick Kids
Monday, November 26, 2007
Thanksgiving Weekend
Monday, November 19, 2007
Monday, November 05, 2007

Having fun with our new series on "Heroes of the Bible." We are diving into some of the characters of the Bible. This Sunday we covered Elijah. When I take a look at Elijah he can almost seem like a super-prophet with all the miracles he did. It is amazing that he was fed by ravens, multiplied food, raised the dead and even called fire down from heaven. But these miracles do not make Elijah a hero. What makes Elijah a hero is found in James 5:17. James tells us that Elijah was a man just like us. He was man just like us that understood how to pray. James 5:16 tells us that Elijah prayed powerful and effective prayers. The point is, we can pray powerful and effective prayers, just like Elijah. All of us can be used by God in incredible ways like Elijah if we learn the power of prayer. If you need a miracle today, don't underestimate the power of prayer!
Monday, October 29, 2007
Fun Fest
Last night was our first Fall Fun Fest with the Giant Haystack and I got to be honest because I really didn't know what to expect. At 5:00 there were only a handful of people and I got really nervous. Thankfully about ten to fifteen after we had a decent crowd. I think everybody had fun and we gave away lots of prizes and candy. Also had a good time talking with some families that do not attend our church. Definitely think we will try it again next year with some modifications and additions to the night. Thanks to everyone that helped out with the outreach, couldn't of done it without you!
Monday, October 22, 2007
Happy Birthday Olivia
Why Money?
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Missions Weekend

This Sunday is our annual Missions Convention. I am really excited as this year as we are having Mark Oberbeck who is our Iowa Youth Director speaking in the morning service. I have known Mark for years and I know he is very passionate about Missions. In the evening we are having missionary Brad Tucker speaking who is a missionary to Africa. We are also having the ministry team from Evangel University in Springfield, MO to come and lead worship and do a special drama for us. This is an exciting time for us as a church because Community Hope was built on Missions. I want us to be a church that Prays for Missions, Gives to Missions and Go and be Missions ourselves. Please be in prayer for this powerful weekend!
Monday, October 15, 2007
Truth or Snare
1. Lies about yourself- My self-worth comes from what I do and what others think.
2. Lies about the meaning of life- The meaning of life is about how much I can accumulate.
3. Lies about God- Many believe lies about God- here are a few lies that people believe;
- I am saved by what I do
- God is out to get me lie
- What I've done is too bad for God to forgive.
Satan throws traps for us all the time. Remember that Satan is the father of lies. The way we defeat the lies is by the truth of God's Word. Hebrews 4:12 says that the Word is the discerner of our thoughts. In other words, when we have these lies enter our minds we must judge that thought by God's Word. What does the truth have to say? If it's not according to the Word, then it is a lie. Don't be caught in the snare of lies that Satan throws at us. Be free by the truth of God's Word.
Breaking 250
Monday, October 08, 2007
Thursday, October 04, 2007
Today is Ethan's birthday! He is officially two years old today. Ethan loves music so naturally we got him a little guitar. I think Ethan is going to be our future worship leader. He loves music, especially the Wiggles. We will have a party for him on Sunday with the family so I'm sure there will be lots of presents. The picture we took here was when we were at the Omaha Zoo. Love the pic of the bear behind him. Pretty cool! Happy Birthday Big Guy!
Monday, October 01, 2007
Sunday Reflections
Saturday, September 29, 2007
Computer Crash
Friday, September 28, 2007
All in the Mind!
Work Nights have begun
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Last Sunday

E2 Conference

Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Last Church Planting Meeting
Attractive Attitudes and Atmospheres in the church
1. Serve with humility
2. Endorse God's plan for abundant life
3. Place a high value on individuals
4. Set an example of excellence- From worship, preaching and facilities.
5. Proclaim that God is faithful
6. Communicate the life giving nature of God
These are attitudes and atmospheres that people are attracted too. I've been in a lot of churches where people come in and leave feeling beat up by the preacher. My goal is that CH will be a place where people can be encouraged and know that with God's help they can have the victory. That's the type of church I want to be a part of.
Sunday, September 16, 2007
Homosexual Marriage
Last week a "marriage" between two homosexual males made the headlines in Iowa and throughout the nation. As a spiritual leader, you will be asked to make a statement about this development. We need to work together to make sure we are prepared for such opportunities. The following is information that I sent out to our credentialed ministers in Iowa. Hope it's helpful.
You have undoubtedly heard about the egregious action by a local judge in the Des Moines area, finding the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) passed by the Iowa legislature several years ago, as unconstitutional. In light of his judgment and the “homosexual marriage” which took place I its aftermath, I wanted to attempt to equip you with some tools you might find helpful.
First, if you are asked to make a statement before the media, you may find these “talking points” helpful (I used them yesterday when I spoke with our local NBC affiliate). These statements came from the Alliance Defense Fund and the Iowa Family Policy Center, located here in Des Moines.
Special interest groups should not trump what’s in the best interest of Iowa families and children. Who’s more important: our children or special interest groups?
Last week’s decision is an example of why marriage in Iowa must be protected by a state marriage amendment.The opponents of marriage are not trying to redefine marriage, they’re trying to eliminate it.
Nine years ago, Iowa voters clearly expressed their desire to protect marriage in the state through their elected and accountable representatives.
Now, some of those elected representatives have thwarted the will of the people to constitutionally protect marriage between one man and one woman.
The will of the people should not be trumped by a special interest group bent on using the courts to destroy marriage.
We’re all in trouble if special interests become more important than strong families.
Second, some time ago, the Executive Board of Administration issued a statement supporting the Federal Marriage Amendment which was before Congress. This statement clearly addresses the stance of the Assemblies of God on the issue of homosexual marriage. You may find it helpful:
Homosexual Marriage Statement
The Assemblies of God is deeply concerned about the attack on biblical, moral values in our nation, especially the aggressive attempt of the pro-homosexual lobby to redefine marriage. The Bible teaches marriage is God-ordained and is to be a life-long commitment between one man and one woman. (Matthew 19:4-5).
God’s design for marriage goes back to mankind’s beginning. The family, as God’s means of propagating His creation, grows out of this primary human relationship. The consistent sexual ideal of the Bible is abstinence for those outside of monogamous heterosexual marriage and faithfulness for those inside such a marriage. There is absolutely no affirmation of homosexual activity found anywhere in Scripture. However, there is abundant evidence that homosexual behavior, along with illicit heterosexual behavior, is immoral and comes under the judgment of God.
The church believes, in the light of biblical teaching, that the growing cultural acceptance of homosexual identity and behavior is symptomatic of a broader spiritual disorder that threatens the family, the government and the church.
Third, you may want to access more information and tools from the Iowa Family Policy Center at www.ifpc.org.
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Bless the Broken Road

Tuesday, September 11, 2007
Great Weekend
What a great weekend we had at Community Hope. To start things off we had our annual Softball game on Saturday night. Sad to say that we lost our first game which meant we lost the trophy from last year. Oh well, still had a blast and came back and won our second game. We kicked off the Fall with our Round Up Sunday and went back to two services. We had 143 in attendance which is a great start to the Fall. Sunday Night was the picnic and probably the greatest memory of the picnic is showed in this picture. Tammy Winburn lost her Mothers Ring in a volleyball match. We had what seemed to be at least 15 or more people looking for the ring. We were all on our hands and knees at one point looking through the grass. The award went to Cassidy Hubbard for finding the ring. Way to go Cassidy! All in all it was great weekend and I'm loooking forward to what God is going to do this Fall at CH!
Thursday, September 06, 2007

I'm in the middle of TD Jakes book called "Reposition Yourself" This a great read for anyone who is looking to advance themselves spiritually, financially and as a leader. Jakes writes a lot differently then he preaches. I am amazed on how intelligent the guy is. I was really moved last night by his chapter on "Launching Yourself Toward Your Highest Goals." Jakes uses an illustration of a bow an arrow and quotes the scripture in Psalms 127:3-5. He talks about the three stages we must go through in order to reach our goals. Here they are:
1. Reservation- Before the arrows are even put in the bow, they are in reservation. Reservation is the process of waiting and the process of preparation before your goals can be accomplished. Many times, we are not ready or manage the future God has for us and so we must be in preparation for the future. Reservation can be difficult because we usually want thing and want them now. But God says, "Wait and Get Ready!"
2. Retraction- In order for an arrow to be released, the bow must be retracted as far back as possible. The further you pull back the farther the arrow goes. Retraction is the stage of bending and even going backwards before you move forward. Setbacks are not always a bad thing, affliction is not always a bad thing. Sometimes we must be pulled back to the point of breaking before God can release and use us. God can use our troubles for His good. Think of Martin Luther King Jr or Nelson Mandela. These great men went through their fair share of trouble but God used their trouble to turn two nations around and to think a different way. Think of the story of Joseph. Through Joseph's affliction, he was used by God to be second in command of all of Egypt and he was able to feed the people of God. Let us look at our troubles in a different light and let God use them for His good.
3. Release- This is the stage that God releases us to reach the goals and dreams He had in mind for us. This is the victory that God has in mind for all of us.
This three things were very encouraging to me and I hope an encouragement to you also! Next time you see a bow and arrow, remember these three stages that we must go through to achieve what God has in mind.
Compass for Discipleship

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Looking forward to our new series on September 9th called "God @ the Grand Ole Opry. We will be taking a look at three popular country music songs such as "Jesus take the Wheel" by Carrie Underwood and "Bless the Broken Road" by Rascal Flatts and discussing the spiritual meaning of the songs. This a great opportunity to invite those that may not attend church. I heard a staggering statistic that said 60% of Americans get their theology about God from music and movies. Most of the time, the church preaches against these things but I believe it is time that we start speaking to our culture in ways that they understand. There are thousands of Americans that has heard "Jesus take the Wheel" yet they have never set foot in a church. My prayer is that people will really understand what Jesus take the Wheel means. Let us use this opportunity and sermon series to reach out to those that need to hear this the most.
Monday, August 27, 2007
Keeping Under the Chuppah
Friday, August 24, 2007
Whirlwind
On a positive note, I also have a wedding this week as well. The wedding is a Hawaiian theme so this is the first wedding that I've done that I get to wear a Hawaiian shirt and lei! What is really cool is the unity candle is Toucan Sam ( The parrot from Fruit Loops!) I love it!
Fishing Trip
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
Vacation
God Moment
After the service, I had a woman come up to me in tears. She was visiting from Youngstown, OH (Which I'm very familiar of since we used to live in Cleveland.) She had family and friends at the Lake and decided to come to church that morning. In tears, she opened up her Bible to Revelations chapter 2. There in Revelation 2 was two obituaries of two young men. She went on to explain that these two men had died trying to climb Mount Everest and she was very close to them both. She has kept their obituaries in her Bible ever since and they were bookmarked in the passage I read that Sunday morning. WOW!
I'm not for sure what God was trying to say to this woman, but I know that God was trying to say something to her. I believe it wasn't coincidence that she happened to come to Montezuma, IA all the way from Ohio to hear about the First Love and the illustration of the mountain. God was obviously trying to say something. This was definitely one of those God-Moments that makes you say Wow!
Monday, August 06, 2007
Bait of Satan
Thursday, August 02, 2007
10 YEARS
Wednesday, August 01, 2007
Reflections
1. We will be Kingdom Focused
2. We will be Missions Minded
3. Reach every generation
4. Relevant to our culture
5. Every person can minister
These five essentials are so important for us as a church to move forward. I look forward to the years ahead serving this great church.
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Sports Camp
Monday, July 23, 2007
Planted Seeds
Power of the Spirit
1. Given a new language
2. Given boldness
3. Given a heart to share with other people
I believe that God's Holy Spirit will do the same three things in our lives as well. When someone is filled with God's power they will receive a new language, they will be given boldness and they will be given a heart to share with other people. One of the things that stands out to me in this passage is it says that when the followers were filled with the Holy Spirit, the crowd that had gathered and witnessed this were "amazed and perplexed". I believe that Holy Spirit is amazing and perplexing at times. Our God is a supernatural God and will do supernatural things. We cannot fit God into our image and try to explain everything there is about Him and what He can do. The power of the Holy Spirit is a supernatural gift and is given to those who seek it. It is available so that we can receive empowerment from on high. This Thursday we will be giving opportunities for those who would like to receive this gift. Come for a time of worship and seeking God. I believe it will be a wonderful time in God's presence.
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Camping Idea
Monday, July 16, 2007
Only True Church?
"In the latest document — formulated as five questions and answers — the Vatican seeks to set the record straight on Vatican II’s ecumenical intent, saying some contemporary theological interpretation had been “erroneous or ambiguous” and had prompted confusion and doubt.
It restates key sections of a 2000 document the pope wrote when he was prefect of the congregation, “Dominus Iesus,” which set off a firestorm of criticism among Protestant and other Christian denominations because it said they were not true churches but merely ecclesial communities and therefore did not have the “means of salvation.”
In the new document and an accompanying commentary, which were released as the pope vacations here in Italy’s Dolomite mountains, the Vatican repeated that position.
“Christ ‘established here on earth’ only one church,” the document said. The other communities “cannot be called ‘churches’ in the proper sense” because they do not have apostolic succession — the ability to trace their bishops back to Christ’s original apostles."
Basically this statement is saying that the Catholic church is the only true church and all other churches are not the "means of salvation." This is a pretty bold and scary statement from the Catholic church. First of all, no church can bring salvation to anyone. Only Jesus Christ can do that. It is not faith in a church but faith in Jesus that brings true salvation. Jesus clearly said, "I am the way, the truth and life, no one comes to the Father except through me." Jesus did not say, the Catholic church was the way, the truth and the life. When you take a look at the Catholic church there are many doctrinal errors that are outside the Word of God. First of all, they believe in a purgatory (place where people go after they die and the saints basically pray them into heaven.) They also believe in praying to other saints besides in the Name of Jesus. Many Catholics pray to Mary as if she was a god. Thirdly, the Catholic church has established the Apacrapha books that are added to the Bible. Scripture clearly tells us to not add or subtract to the Word. Scripture tells us that in the last days, many will try to deceive us from believing the true truth of Jesus Christ.
I believe that we need to stay away from groups that claim to put your faith in their church and their particular teachings. Jesus never put His faith in institutions but rather simple faith in Him.
Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Conflict Resolution
There is a good way to handle conflict and then there is a bad way to handle conflict. If conflict is handled in a bad way it can result in 1) Damage to individuals 2) Loss of personnel 3) Damage to organizational trust 4) Loss of learning opportunity 5) Root of bitterness. These are five costs of poor conflict resolution. If conflict is handled the right way then; 1) Surface key issues and tensions 2)Build relational currency 3) Produce new and creative ideas 4) Cause organizations to re-evaluate and clarify goals and mission. 5) Allows for experiential learning. I have been on both sides of conflict and believe me, I would rather be on the healthy side then the unhealthy side of conflict.
So how do we resolve conflict? One way is use the triangle of Satisfaction. On the top of the triangle is the "What?". What is the tip of the iceberg? What is the conflict about? After you deal with the what, we then need to deal with the "Why?". Why did this conflict happen? Is there any Psychological or Emotional Issues behind this? One District Leader met with a board member who gave all his pastors a hard time. Each pastor ended up leaving the church because of this particular board member. Finally, a District official asked the board member if he ever met a pastor that he actually liked. The board member replied, "Yes, one and that pastor molested me when I was a child." The "Why?" behind why that board member was so mean to all his pastors was because of something that happened to him as a child and to this day he could not trust any pastor. Usually in conflict, there is an issue behind the issue. We need to discover the "Why?" of conflict. The final stage is the "How?". How do we resolve this issue or heal the past? In other words, how can we move forward? Is there issues that we need to deal with in our past? Do we need to go and ask for forgiveness to someone? Do we need to forgive the past? Conflict is not resolved unless we move forward from it.
I hope this helps anyone with dealing with issues of conflict. Conflict affects our marriages, our family and our churches. If we know how to deal with conflict when it comes, it will be a lot less painful when it happens.
Sunday, July 01, 2007
Community 4th of July Service










